Legal Name Change?
When I was 20, I wanted to be someone more exotic than I thought I was. Someone more adventurous, more interesting, more different (in a good way), more exciting to be with. Someone with a more inviting future than I was able to see for myself at the time. So I became Kahlin. Kahlin was about as opposite from my birth name as you could get.
For a year or so, I introduced myself as Kahlin and found it interesting to have to spell it for people when they asked, answer questions about the genesis of it when someone wanted to know, and looking at the world from the Kahlin vantage point instead of the one I had been seeing for my first 20 years.
But, it didn’t stick. I had thought a Name Change would produce a life change to reflect the new name. Of course, that’s not true. After a year I still needed to find my way to my future in the same way as I did a year earlier. I came to realize the name didn’t make the person. Rather, the person finds his/her way and your name is like your hair. You can change it, slightly or even radically, but it’s still a part of you. Your name is an aspect of who you are…it’s not who you are. No one becomes the person they are because of their name. But, your name should reflect and radiate you to the world at large.
You should have the name you want. Legal Name Change is a solution; however, you should be the one you want to be and your name should feel like it reflects that. We can choose our own name and can choose our own path. When anyone says it or sees it, it brings you to mind. Our Name is like our personal flag.
I found out recently that Leslie Lynch King, Jr. became president of the United States AFTER he legally changed his name. He went to court when he was 22 years old and got a court order saying his legal name was changed to the name he had been using for years by then. And so, in 1974, Gerald R Ford (born Leslie Lynch King, Jr.) became the 38th President of the United States.